One of the great questions in our time is, “When is someone an adult?” The reality is we seem to have no clear rite of passage. Old expectations have quickly lost their power. Those transiting from adolescence to the adult world are entering unknown territory. Cultural shifts, technological advances and financial uncertainties have resulted in a general fog of understanding related to becoming adult.
Some questions to be considered are: How do young adults navigate in a world of unending options, high expectations and confusing messages? How do parents help prepare and support their children in becoming adult? What is the role of extended family and the broader community?
Some of the factors to consider:
- We seem to lack any clear “rite of passage”
- Culture is shifting quickly
- “Extended adolescence” seems to be the new reality
- The system that parents “became adult” in is likely ineffective to meet the needs of today’s young adults
- The transition has implications for the entire family
Possible responses for exploration:
- Gain an understanding – of the uniqueness of the family and its members
- Post-high school – be intentional about relationships, decision making, support realities (financial and other)
- Beyond – exploration of (new) expectations
I have experience helping people 1) evaluate unique family histories and dynamics, 2) define a hoped for future, 3) establish a plan for making progress on the journey to adulthood and 4) providing support along the way.